Mindfulness

Mindfulness

The fundraiser is over and the tragedy has passed. You’ve collected money and made a fantastic donation. It’s sent off and you feel good for your contribution. You will hopefully help someone who never even plays this game.

But at home, are you mindful? Do you practice good allyship on the grid?

Do you listen to those who look like the victims you just raised money for? Or do you tell them their reactions to racism on the grid are too strong? Do you yield the floor for them to express their frustrations, or do you block them and tell your friends to block them too?

Do you listen to how they feel trapped and don’t have good options for finding places that are welcoming? Have you ever searched for a hangout that has the words “trans” and “genderfluid”, that isn’t an inflation dickgirl fetish sim? Do you know how few places welcome people who are actually nonbinary and don’t view them as a sexual adventure?

Do you ask yourself what someone feels when they combine the anger and fear of Black Lives Matter with the anger and fear of people on the grid laughing at Caitlin Jenner around you? Have you ever spotted an avatar in a club wearing a penis attachment under a skirt and their profile says they’re a “t-girl”, and it made you, the person who is nonbinary irl, feel like an imposter?

Do you know what trans racism is? Did you know it exists on the grid too?

The grid is not an escape for some of us. It’s a place where we can figure out who we are both as people of color and as members of the queer and nonbinary community. We can figure out what style is best for our desired appearance. We can come to understand how we wish to present. We don’t run from real world problems and when we see them here, we call them out.

Not to make waves, not to make people upset, but because if we don’t, we will suffer a shrinking space where we feel welcome and free to be ourselves–our true selves, where we know we can go to a place where the folks there will accept us for everything. Not part of us, not make slight slurs about race or gender or queerness when you think we aren’t listening, but 100 percent of our being. If we aren’t allowed to do so, then the grid is no good to us at all. The grid becomes a place that is welcoming to straight white people only.

And I cannot abide in a place like that. I won’t make paintings to hang in rl galleries of a grid that doesn’t value me as a person. I just won’t.

Practice mindfulness. Wherever you raise money, ask yourself on the grid if there’s someone suffering in a similar way. Ask if you’ve crossed paths with them before. Then ask how you can behave differently next time.

Skybox – The Cyberpunk Apartment by Djehan Kidd

Wasabi Pills; Hair Fair 2016

Wasabi Pills @ Hair Fair

I went to the Alpha Moon, Land of the Lycans sim and found the most enchanting pavilion with flowers covering the floor. I could actually make this floor my new home, it’s so pretty.

Wasabi Pills @ Hair Fair

Speaking of pretty, why didn’t anyone tell me that Wasabi Pills did a major texture update months ago? The new textures are stunning!! One of the reasons I didn’t wear Wasabi Pills hair often was cos of the lack of blondes; the new hair color packs includes many shades of blondes! I have been wearing more hombres, fades, and color mixes lately, so I am very pleased with the cheerful assortment of colors too. Check out Wasabi Pills at Hair Fair!

Wasabi Pills @ Hair Fair

What I’m Wearing:

Wasabi Pills – Fionna
Teefy – Naomi Dress (East) @ N21
The Secret Store – Polka Tights (White)
Ingenue – Maisie Sandals (Navy)

Mesh Heads; LeLutka / LOGO

Mesh Heads; LeLutka / LOGOLeLutka – Stella & Karin | LOGO – Alex

I’m playing with two of my favorite mesh heads brands today; LeLutka and LOGO. No matter which head I wear, I always try to find the skin & makeup that feels like me. There are no perfect or best mesh heads, but I have a feeling that innovative creators in SL will always surprise us with better products.

Lara Hurley just released the Cindy applier for LeLutka, so I tried it on two different LeLutka heads. The skin applier is made for Stella specifically, but I think it works very nicely with Karin too. By using the same skin brand across multiple mesh heads, I am able to create similar looks so it still feels like me. I found it easy to layer makeups from different brands to further customize the look. I am wearing a Pink Fuel lipstick applier on the LOGO head; it is from the Kiyomi skin for LOGO.

Do you guys change mesh heads often? When you do, do you also change skin brands or stick to your favorites? Let me know in the comments!]

What I’m Wearing:

Lelutka, LOGO mesh heads
Lara Hurley – Cindy, Aria applier
Pink Fuel – Kiyomi (lipstick)
LeLutka – HF5 hair

Hair Fair 2016

Hair Fair 2016

Exile – Captive Kiss | LeLutka – HF04 | Pr!tty – Ellie | Barberyumyum – Hair Gift

Let’s go to Hair Fair! This event raises money for Wigs for Kids, and you can shop with confidence cos all the items have some proceeds going to the charity. I have gone to Hair Fair since forever, and it is still one of my favorite events in SL. Hair Fair runs from the 16th – 31st, so you have plenty of time to shop your favorite brands and discover some new ones. I found tons of free hair gifts and hair accessories, so even if you don’t spend a lot of money, it’s still fun to go!

See you at Hair Fair!

Pink Fuel Classic Skin; Mori & Morgana

Pink Fuel

Pink Fuel – Mori | Morgana

What do you think of when an item is called system (ex: system skin, system shoes)? In Second Life fashion terms, it can mean basic and dated. I have noticed that some skin brands have decided to call non-mesh head skins classic skins instead of system skins. This is a brilliant way to distinguish between mesh and non-mesh, without saying one type is better than the other. Classic is good, desirable, and timeless. I like that some brands still offer classic skins alongside skin appliers.

Pink Fuel just released two new classic skins called Mori and Morgana. Mori is an entirely new face, and Morgana is a classic skin release of the previously released Morgana mesh head appliers. I like Morgana on my shape, cos I can tweak it my way and make the face work for me.

Pink Fuel

Both skins comes with eyeshadows, lipsticks, blush, freckles, additional button nose, and a separate HUD with appliers for mesh mouths. I haven’t found a mesh mouth that I like, but this is a wonderful addition for people who use them in photos.

Do you still wear classic skins? Even though I wear mesh heads a lot cos they’re shiny and new, I like to keep my classic avatar updated with all the latest items since I know that it’s uniquely me.

What I’m Wearing:

Pink Fuel – Mori | Morgana skins (Peach)
Truth Hair – Oriana 2
The Secret Store – Olivia Lacey Blouse (Pure)

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